My 60 Soulmate Criteria…

In April 2007, I wrote down a list of everything I wanted to experience in an intimate relationship. I allowed my thoughts to flow, and listed absolutely everything… not only what I wanted to experience in love, but also in my life, my work, in where I lived, right down to having a vegetable garden….

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When we confuse ‘showing love’ with emotional drama…

I can’t help feeling that sometimes people mistake emotional drama for empathy or love. I think there’s a common misconception that if something negative has happened to someone they love, the more drama they respond with, the more compassionate, empathic and caring they will be perceived as.  The opposite would be true too of course……

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Attachment or non-attachment? That is the question…

I sometimes wonder about attachment… In fact, many say that the only way to happiness is non-attachment. I can certainly agree with elements of this. Attachment brings with it neediness, fear, desire, the pain of being let down or losing what one has become attached to… and for many it comes to mean detachment, the…

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A story of soulmates reunited…

Six months before Andy and I moved to Inverness, I had past life regression hypnotherapy. In that experience I saw a life lived with him prior to this one. It was all incredibly clear. However, it wasn’t just that experience that blew me away, it was the revelations that followed. I now know we’ve had…

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Why deep intimacy eludes so many…

It’s wonderful to have a big bag of positive-thinking tools and spiritual philosophies to apply to our reasoning when we need to. But have you ever wondered why we actually need them in the first place? What exactly are they attempting to resolve, suppress, cover up or hide? Allow me to explain what I mean…

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Trust; from a man’s perspective…

By Andrew Nicholson Trust is without a doubt the foundation to a strong relationship. It can be broken for 2 main reasons: If one partner struggles with insecurity – if they don’t love themselves, then they can struggle to believe another can. Checking up on and over-questioning your partner can often push them into doing…

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Law of Attraction not working for you? Here’s why…

The way we’ve been taught about the Law of Attraction through films such as ‘The Secret’ is that we should never ‘want’ what we are attempting to attract, because wanting something comes from a place of lack. So for instance if we want to attract a new partner, we won’t, because this comes from a…

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